By Ruth Yong Wan Theen
Friendship is a beautiful part of being human. We’re wired for connection, laughter, and life shared with others. But for those of us who follow Jesus, there’s an even deeper way to experience friendship—one that is anchored not in convenience or shared interests but in Christ Himself.
So, what does a true, Christ-centred friendship look like? How is it different from ordinary friendships? Let’s reflect on the qualities that make Christian friendships life-giving, faith-shaping, and ultimately God-glorifying.
A Christ-centred friendship keeps Jesus at the core
Christian friendship isn’t just about having a good time. It’s about walking together in Christ. When two people love Jesus, He becomes the unshakable foundation that holds their friendship through every season. As Jesus Himself said:
“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” (Matthew 18:20, NIV)
Whether it’s over coffee or during a crisis, Christ is present when we gather in His name. This friendship doesn’t fade when interests change. It deepens as we both pursue God together.
Is Jesus at the centre of your closest friendships? How can you make space for Him in your conversations?
A true friend offers compassion that reflects Christ’s heart
Compassion is more than feeling sorry—it’s feeling with someone. In a Christ-centred friendship, we carry each other’s burdens and hurt when our friend hurts.
“Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.” (Romans 12:15, NLT)
Jesus showed deep compassion to the hurting, and Christian friends are called to do the same. Whether it’s sitting silently beside someone in pain or offering a comforting word, Christlike compassion brings healing.
When was the last time you showed compassion to a friend in need? How can you be more present in their pain?
Kindness is the daily thread that binds true friendships
Kindness in friendship shows up in the little things: thoughtful messages, shared laughter, gentle corrections, or help when it’s needed most. It’s not about grand gestures but consistent love in action.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32, NIV)
In a harsh and hurried world, kindness is a reflection of Christ’s gentleness.
Do your words and actions reflect Christ’s kindness? How might your friend feel more loved through small, consistent acts of care?
A Christlike friend is loyal through every season
Worldly friendships often disappear in difficulty, but true Christian friendships endure because of loyalty grounded in God’s faithfulness. Think of Ruth and Naomi—a powerful biblical example of unshakable loyalty.
“Don’t urge me to leave you… Your people will be my people and your God my God.” (Ruth 1:16, NIV)
Such loyalty isn’t passive. It actively chooses to stay, support, and walk alongside through both joy and hardship.
Are you a loyal friend in hard times? Who in your life needs to know you’re still standing with them?
Christian friends listen deeply, not just hear
In an age of constant noise, listening is rare—but invaluable. A true friend doesn’t rush to respond but listens to understand, not just to reply.
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” (James 1:19, NIV)
Listening is one way we reflect the heart of Christ, who always hears our prayers and welcomes our hearts.
When your friend speaks, do you truly listen? What might they be saying beneath their words?
Encouragement is a vital ingredient of Christian friendship
A Christ-centred friend doesn’t let you settle. They lift you up, remind you of your worth, and speak God’s truth over your life. Their words breathe life into dry places.
“So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11, NLT)
This kind of friendship leaves you feeling seen, strengthened, and stirred to love Jesus more.
Do your words build up your friends or tear them down? Who needs a word of encouragement from you today?
True friends pray with and for each other
Christian friendship isn’t complete without prayer. It’s how we invite God into our friendships and intercede for one another when we’re too weak to stand.
“Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” (James 5:16, NLT)
Praying together builds intimacy—not just with each other, but with the Lord.
When was the last time you prayed with a friend? What would change if prayer became a regular part of your friendship?
Forgiveness and grace are freely given, just as Christ gave them
Every friendship has moments of friction. But Christlike friends don’t hold grudges. They reflect the grace they themselves have received from God.
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” (Colossians 3:13, NLT)
Grace keeps relationships healthy. It says, “You’re more important than your mistake.”
Are you holding on to offence? Who do you need to forgive today?
A friendship that reflects Christ is a gift to treasure
Let’s thank God for the friends He has placed in our lives—especially those who walk with us in Christ. These friendships aren’t perfect. But they are powerful. Rooted in Jesus, rich in compassion, marked by loyalty and grace—they’re the kind of friendships that reflect God’s love to the world. So today, why not reach out to a friend and thank them? Even more, ask God to help you be the kind of friend that reflects His heart.
